Well, there seems to be a new development in the saga that is my life.
When we moved up here, Brett said something about having moved so many times in his life. Three of the moves were to better homes in the same school district, but I can see where he's coming from. I told him that we wouldn't change school again until he graduates. That's 2 years away. I didn't think we'd get a chance to buy this quickly.
I talked to him, told him that I rememebered telling him that, and that I didn't want to go back on my word, but home-ownership was important to me. I also told him what it would mean for him. I told him that he said he'd move in with his dad if we ever moved out of district again, and that I wouldn't be upset if he did so. I would be devestated, but not mad at him. Jerry is a great dad, and Brett would do great there...but I want my boy with me. It was less than 3 hours later that Brett said, "I'm kind of excited thinking about moving!" I was relieved.
Last weekend, he went to his dad's and told him about the plans. Sheesh. His dad has made it clear that, if Brett lives there, he can still go to this school (I'm pretty sure this will mean paying tuition) but will have to drive each day. Now Brett says he's unsure. I refuse to fight him on this decision, but I almost feel like his dad is playing dirty pool. I can't afford tuition. I am also unwilling to buy the boy. I want him with me, and he knows it. He'll not be bribed by me. The decision is his, and I'll support it, whatever it is.
I feel like his dad is getting nasty again (we've gotten along wonderfully for 7 years) and I don't like it. I haven't spoken to him, because I want to do it in person. I need to get the chip off my shoulder before that conversation happens. I need to talk to Brett more. I will not pressure him. It's his call, all the way. He's 16 1/2, and knows he always has a home with me. I've never been without him for more than a couple of weeks, though, and although he pisses me off sometimes (he's a teen, it's his job) I love him dearly and want him with us.
I'm babbling. Let him decide.
3 comments:
Does Brett have his own car? Is his father going to pay the tuition? If he makes the decision to live with you and go to the other school then let him pay. Personality I would not pay.
What does your mom think? You've got one of the wisest women in the world to consult! This could work out well no matter what Brett decides. You'll either have him in your house or have him fairly close -- missing you and appreciating you more every time you're not right there to be his ma. I'm no expert....just offering an opinion. Russ
LOL @ me being wise, according to Toonguy.
I wouldn't pay tuition. No way. That's that. If Jerry wants to, fine.
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