Yeah, it's been weird. Very weird.
We had a great few hours at Mom's on Saturday. I wanted to go for a ride with her, but she was cooking when I was ready, and she was ready when we needed to head home, so it didn't work out. Yeah, we could've waited a bit, with no problems, but there was so much to do here at the house. Anyway, Buddy (Brat? Prince?) got his hooves trimmed yesterday, and will be good to go next chance I get.
Sunday, Monica had a birthday party to attend at the local roller skating rink. Yeah, they still play Ghostbusters, YMCA, the Limbo, the Chicken Dance, and the Hokey Pokey (that's what it's all about, ya know.) It hasn't changed in 20 years. Throw in several giggling 9 year old girls, and you have a wild afternoon. Natalie went to the grocery store with Kevin after I got home, and came home to say, "Dad spent $123, are we rich?" No, honey, not anymore. Walmart has it all, now.
Monday was a normal day, other than my neopet catching "hoochie coochie"...what the heck is THAT? Sounds like VD! Anyway, he's healed.
Today is the 1st of the month. That means hell at work. I ran the monthly statements this morning, and there was a problem with the updates that I run afterward. It took over an hour on the phone with IT, and several hoops to jump through, but it got fixed. Then, I found out that a customer filled out a form to have us charge his credit card, and put the wrong account number in. That means: We've been charging the credit card belonging to accoung "X" for the last 6 orders shipping to account "Y". SHIT! Lots of crediting and debiting later, that's fixed, too. That's when Kevin called me.
It seems that Jonathan (Kevin's 19 year old son) is practically homeless. His plan to live with his grandpa isn't working out. Lots of folks suspected that Grandpa's temper would come out, but after only a few days? All signs point to no provocation, but who knows? Jonathan would likely live on the streets before leaving his girlfriend behind, but can they come here? Get on their feet until they find a place? Can we help them get away from that town? I have preached to Kevin for years that "you give your kids as many chances as they need," and now he's gonna call me on it.
I still believe that you give your kids all the chances they need...I mean, who else is gonna do it? I also believe that Jonathan has turned things around in the past year. He is holding a job, he's dropped his junkie friends, and he's a respectful guy to be around. The reason for this change is his girlfriend. She has encouraged him, supported him, and refuses to let him fall back into old ways. It's a good thing, right? The problem is, he won't leave her behind, and it's hard for us to say, "let her stay there!" She has nobody there, and is the reason that Jonathan is growing up. DAMN!
No, I don't want to have Jonathan and his girlfriend using this as a crash pad. Yes, I want Jonathan to continue the path that he's on. No, I don't want my girls to think it's OK to live with your S.O. Yes, I think they're together for the long haul, and will probably get married. No, we don't have room for two more people to move in. Yes, I will support Kevin with whatever decision he makes. He has supported me through a lot, and I will do the same for him.
I love Jonathan, and I see the change in him since he started dating Samantha. They are really pulling it together. He is a different kid. Does that make it easier? Does that make more room in my house? Does that explain what we'll tell the girls? Does that help explain where they will work or how long it will last? No...no it doesn't. All I can do is support Kevin in the decision that he makes. We will figure this mess out.
I know what my brain tells me, and I know what my heart tells me. Right now, those two are arguing something fierce. The final decision is Kevin's, not mine. I will support him and make due. I will continue to work and raise my kids. I will make the best of whatever situation develops. If I'm going to give Brett unlimited chances, I have to be willing to do the same for Jonathan. sheesh! I'm tired.
5 comments:
Wow. You should definitely support your husband -- but your first priority is to your kids. Protect them from bad influences and any interruption to the safe place you've created for them. Don't listen to me -- I don't have kids or anything. I just am way too opinionated! ;) hugs, Russ
I think I'll stay out of this one.
Unlike your mom I will offer my opinion DON'T DO IT, BEEN THERE DONE THAT it STILL isn't working out. Now remember that is just my opinion so it is probably worth 0 but I feel for you.
I know this is hard. My opinion is that if both are allowed to come then they DO NOT SHARE A BED. If they are grown up then they can control that part to. It is your home, your rules.
I am glad that I am not in your shoes at this time. I think as a parent you know what you need to do. I also know by having other kids (my case Amber ) they will not always understand what your motive is, just do you best to explain the reason why you doing what you doing. Besides you have smart kids that helps, and they are not as mouthy as sis.
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